Talks about otome games, drama cds, and occasionally provides advice? Running away endlessly from my backlog of hobbies.

Ilinox

I'm not, don't worry! I was actually in the middle of turning my attention back to your perch after clearing out those 3 previous perches (because the first was the oldest one in my queue and the other two were related).

Bear with me as I think out loud about how to explain myself because I don't like any English words for this situation, but I like to consider myself as someone with 分寸 (fēncùn). It's like having a sense of proportion, drawing boundaries, or knowing the limits of what's possible.

Some people may want to translate 分寸 as tact or propriety, but these two words are more about acting sensitively and with diplomacy to accepted standards of behavior or morals, and that's not exactly what 分寸 can capture because, for example, you can beat someone up but have 分寸 by not beating them up so badly they're permanently injured or killed.

Okay, that was a tangent, what I'm trying to express is that I have 分寸 and can separate my own feelings from the conversation. Whatever people feel about their blorbo is between them and their blorbo and I make no judgments—and cannot make any judgments—on that. Any and all clashes I've had with people were because they wanted to drag their blorbo into the technical wrestling ring.

In short, even if I cannot see or empathize with what someone feels about their blorbo, I can understand and accept that they feel this about their blorbo and I can have a conversation with that. I hope this reassures (?) some people or maybe it makes me sound like an aggressive alien!

I'm not, don't worry! I was actually in the middle of turning my attention back to your perch after clearing out those 3 previous perches (because the first was the oldest one in my queue and the other two were related).

Bear with me as I think out loud about how to explain myself because I don't like any English words for this situation, but I like to consider myself as someone with 分寸 (fēncùn). It's like having a sense of proportion, drawing boundaries, or knowing the limits of what's possible.

Some people may want to translate 分寸 as tact or propriety, but these two words are more about acting sensitively and with diplomacy to accepted standards of behavior or morals, and that's not exactly what 分寸 can capture because, for example, you can beat someone up but have 分寸 by not beating them up so badly they're permanently injured or killed.

Okay, that was a tangent, what I'm trying to express is that I have 分寸 and can separate my own feelings from the conversation. Whatever people feel about their blorbo is between them and their blorbo and I make no judgments—and cannot make any judgments—on that. Any and all clashes I've had with people were because they wanted to drag their blorbo into the technical wrestling ring.

In short, even if I cannot see or empathize with what someone feels about their blorbo, I can understand and accept that 

 about their blorbo and I can have a conversation with that. I hope this reassures (?) some people 

or maybe it makes me sound like an aggressive alien

You guessed right, it's me again lol. So, I just found out you apparently have some kind of personal beef wth sxh? Lmaoo, i hope you are not offended by my comparison on the previous perch regarding xy and sxh parallels i'm seeing.

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